In terms of "privacy" (Introversion) its more about spending a greater percentage of time locked in your own thoughts and analysis.
Once, a competent (intelligent) INTJ (As I guess you're that) really knows their stuff they don't mind telling everyone and assuming control. I think its a misnomer that INTJs hang back and don't take on authority -> Its more about disliking dealing with all the superficial crap that goes with contolling others. We are efficient, we like to achieve and not deal with everyones feelings and constant underperformance...
Confidence/arguing etc is just a function of being prepared to engage and get used to it. Its like being an Intovert and not liking attention so the person wears less "extroverted" clothing etc. Yet, get that intovert and get them to step out of their comfort zone often enough and you'll find they don't get used to some/alot of attention.
I believe INTJs don't move on quickly from relationships, basically because they have such a wall containing their emotions that when it all goes pear shaped, they get lost in the emotions that reigns greater than their usual thinking control. (Whereas all the "feelers" and "extroverts" have been going through it more often, as more group focused and extrovert. Also, greater socialisation allows them to reconnect elsewhere quicker).
Yes, with social rituals... its only when you've become so INTJ that you realize that you're like the BORG and simple pleasures of life you have denied yourself. An INTJ will give money as a present, whereas a Feeler will give a small and even inexpensive present that actually is a personal expression of affection.
I've just written up a page on the INTJ at
INTJ Personality Type which will be updated as people contribute. Hopefully I'll make it a pretty extensive "article".
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